One of the greatest gifts I have learnt to give myself, is to question myself.

We all have an internal dialogue. We say things to self and then even answer ourselves. No you are not alone in this, it is very normal.

The big question is not if you talk to yourself, but HOW do you talk to yourself.

The way you ask yourself questions is very often the greatest secret to your own happiness and success.

So what is the trick? Easy. Ask yourself one question on a regular basis...."what can I do differently?"

Sounds simple does it not?

The purpose of the question is not to get a simple answer, the purpose is to challenge yourself. If you are brutally honest with self, you might not like the answers you get.

So then why do it?

As humans we are designed to grow and develop. There is no stagnation, that is a myth. We either grow or die. It is that simple. So when I ask myself " what can I do different?" , I am actually asking how and where can I grow. How and where can I develop myself and become a better person.

We are constantly going through some form of change. None of us are the same we were a year ago. Think how much you have changed over the past 10 years.

The question allows you to start taking control of that change and not allow external events to determine how you change.

When I ask the question, I am determining where I want to go, who I want to be and how I want to develop. That is the best way of taking control of my future and not allowing external events and other people to shape me.